Being a dad is the greatest opportunity and responsibility I have. The ability to shape the lives of my boys, empowering them to become influential young men of purpose, is equal parts opportunity and responsibility. I do think, though, sometimes us dads overcomplicate things just a tad.
I am dad to four boys, the oldest nearing teenagehood (is this even a word?). I readily admit I am no expert but I know what has worked well for our family over the past 12 years, a foundation which I believe will serve us well into the teenage years and beyond.
Anyone who knows me well can attest to my fondness of the saying “it’s not rocket science” and I boldly attach this to fatherhood. Yes, it is often confusing, very often challenging, but it is NOT rocket science! As dads, time is a critical factor – spending time with our kids collectively and individually enables a relationship to be built beyond the normal father / child routine post-work. This designated time enables us to connect with our kids and to then invest appropriately and strategically.
Take for example a recent planned opportunity I had to spend a day with son #3, our 4-year-old adventurer. An avid collector of timber, rocks and miscellaneous things from nature, a movie date, whilst enjoyable, would not create a super memory for either of us. Instead, our day was spent in a local park testing the laws of physics via a flying fox before exploring along the banks of a nearby creek. Testimony to the success of this day is our car now being burdened with a branch, some rope, a length of vine and a myriad of rocks, all collected on our adventure and brought home to show mum!
The easy route of a movie and lunch at McDonalds is useful and can certainly be fun, but it shouldn’t be the standard “adventure”. As dads, we need to know our kids and cultivate their unique talents and interests. After all, fatherhood is not rocket science!
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