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I’ll have what she’s having!

In Meg Ryan’s famous (infamous maybe?) orgasm scene from the classic 80’s film ‘When Harry Met Sally’ we have a fellow diner responding with ‘I’ll have what she’s having!’. Obviously this is a bit of fun but the reality for many of us is that we do often want others have!

The sting in the tale of comparison is that what is best for us, is rarely what others have. Ouch!

An ironic thing that I’ve learned over the years is people for whom we may feel sorry when we view what they physically or financially ‘lack’ may actually feel sorry for us when they see what we ‘have’! This ‘lack’ and ‘have’ is really about what we value.

It’s simpler to assess our impact or influence by what we have – our job, where our kids go to school, where we live, the car we drive, how we spend our holidays. This is an easy-to-measure yardstick against which we can hold ourselves and others.

Much harder to measure is who we are. There is no obvious metric. This includes our genuine happiness, our level of contentedness even in the midst of physical lack, our mindset. These are the things which can seem ethereal but are the core from which our expectations, attitudes and behaviours are driven.

It’s also much more difficult to compare… and that’s partially the point. Focusing more upon our own emotional and spiritual health enables us to more effectively empower and support others. Impact and influence starts with ourselves.

Do you really want what she’s having?

Let Hope Rise.

Dream BIG!

Thirty-six years ago it was launched with a clear cut four-year mission. August 25, 2012, was the day that history was made. And in a very BIG way!

NASA recently confirmed the Voyager 1 spacecraft has become the first human-made object to exit the solar system and enter interstellar space. Ironically, this craft was launched the same year as Star Wars was released!

It carries 1977 technology including an 8-track tape recorder and computers with less processing power than an iPhone, yet it continues to surpass all expectations. It is apparently 18.8 billion kilometres from Earth and expected to continue transmitting data until 2025. Voyager 1’s original mission focused upon Saturn however it’s now opening up a window to a whole new realm of exploration.

Sometimes we can think having a go at something is not really worthwhile. After all, the likely outcome that we see may not seem that significant.

Could it possibly be that what we think will happen could just be the starting point?

What we set in motion today could have a significantly longer-lasting and wider-ranging impact than imaginable today. What we see today as possible is based upon our current knowledge, experience and attitude. What we cannot see is the mighty unknown and, in many cases, this should the very reason for stepping out of the known.

The scientists back in the 1970’s saw value in the Saturn mission so they persevered. Little did they know that history would be made in such spectacular fashion more than 30 years after the planned mission wrapped up.

Where could your plans take you?


What’s guiding you?

I’ve been driving now for almost 25 years – and boy am I tired!!  #DadJoke 🙂

Seriously though, across those years I estimate I have driven in excess of 400,000km (about 250,000 miles) and have reverse parked hundreds of times. The funny thing about reverse parking is that regardless of how many times you do it, you still need to align yourself with something to ensure you’re correctly parked.

One can choose to align the car with the vehicles parked alongside, or perhaps the gutter or road’s edge. Maybe we can use a tree or sign-post as our guide. Regardless of what we choose, our park will reflect the position of the thing to which we have aligned ourselves.  If the cars beside us are parked incorrectly then by using them as our guide, so to will we be parked off-centre.

Take this concept out of the carpark and it rings true for our life. Our lives will reflect what (or whom) we have chosen as our guide. We will assume the properties, positive and negative, of the reference point we’re using. If that reference point is strong, stable and reliable, then those qualities can shine through. The converse is also true.

So what’s guiding you? Will it help or hinder your destiny?


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Scratch the itch!

*Alternative title: If there’s a problem, there’s always a cause (and a solution!)*

Ruby had been looking decidedly uncomfortable, rubbing her back along the rough brickwork of the house, scratching against the furniture, even chewing her tail (yep, Ruby’s our 9-year-old Staffy, not one of our boys!). Now I could have dismissed this as the behaviour of a dementing old dog, or I could have investigated if this change was indicative of a problem.

The problem was fleas. The cure was a bath and a wash of her bedding.

How often do we see undesirable change in our own worlds yet hesitate investigating the cause?

I think we do so because once we know the cause, then we really have an obligation to source the solution. We can at that point no longer decree that we didn’t know.

I could have continued to ignore Ruby’s behaviour and her discomfort would have gradually spread to others in the household. What we often perceive as something insignificant with limited consequences can, if left unchecked, grow to adversely impact many.

If we see a problem, we need to accept there will be a cause and then seek the solution.


A blogger’s mantra…

There’s the old adage that it’s not about the numbers, but in reality it IS about the numbers. Whether it’s the number of blogs you post, the readers you have or the comments you receive, blogging IS a numbers game. I don’t regard myself as an “expert” blogger by any stretch of the imagination, but I do like to write and have trialled a few different approaches, so here are a few thoughts…

The number of blogs you post indicates your depth of content and your desire to write. Now, one can write anything just for the sake of a post, but I’m talking here about content of which you are proud to call your own work.

Every reader you have is a life that you can influence. Here, more than anywhere, numbers are critical. The bigger the number, the greater your circle of influence.

Similarly, every comment reflects an ENGAGED reader – someone who has taken the time to encourage, to share or perhaps even to disagree.

I’ve been blogging semi-regularly since March 2011 however it was not until I made the decision recently to post daily that I understand writing momentum. The pressure of writing daily builds expectation within myself, expectation that tunes me in to the world around me, expectation that seeks quality content. Expanding my topics into family and fatherhood has extended my reach and broadened my content pool.

Blogging daily is not the chore I thought it would be. Thanks to the insight shared by Jeff Goins, I write now because I WANT to write. I am a writer. I do not write for the numbers, but as I write consistently quality content the numbers stack up!

It’s not all about the numbers, but when each number represents a life to positively influence, it’s ALL about the numbers.


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The ‘S’ word…

We’ve all heard it. We’ve probably even all spoken it. The ‘S’ word – you know what I’m talking about…

S_____ .

That’s right SHOULD.

Channel surfing recently, I caught 30 seconds of Sex And The City (I swear this is NOT part of my regular viewing – honest!) with the Sarah Jessica Parker character talking about the ‘S’ word and how many of us say we ‘should’ do something when in reality we could be doing something.

WOW! How profound from what I would deem an otherwise meaningless TV show!  It at least spurred my thinking…

Life is often busy, complicated and challenging (even in TV land for SJP). That’s a fact.

When we encounter a situation or person where we could potentially make a positive difference we can either discuss / think / rationalise what we SHOULD do or we can simply take a chance at doing what we COULD do.

Should talks about what we think ought to happen. Could actually explores the possibility. After all, even in the children’s tale “The Little Engine That Could” the small engine didn’t think about what it should do, it set about determining what it could do, irrespective of other’s expectations!

When we’re next faced with an opportunity to act, let’s be the ones who decided they COULD do something rather than those who thought they SHOULD have.


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