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Getting your life off pause

The song is on the playlist but there’s no sound. It’s all quiet and serene when it should be happening and upbeat!

The equipment is in order so what can it be?

We’ve hit the pause button! We didn’t hit pause consciously so what happened?

Many of us experience this in a much more significant fashion – our life seems to be on pause. It hasn’t finished, we know that, yet nothing’s happening.

How can we get our lives off pause? It’d be great if it was as simple as pushing the play button… it can be, kind of 🙂

Getting your life off pause starts with alignment. We need to align our actions with our aspirations, those goals that demand us to stretch. We can gaze upon where we’d like to be or consider the person we believe we could be and see only the gap between here and there. This leaves us parked in the gap, on pause.

Stepping out of the known, taking a risk, can be both challenging and confronting. This action, though, will help build a personal culture of growth and opportunity. It will close the gap between here and there.

Aligning our actions with our aspirations starts with everyday decisions. We can have amazingly productive days or weeks, crossing multiple items off our ‘to do’ list, but if finalising them do not move us towards our goals, then we need to re-prioritise. Consider the macro goals and make decisions that reduce the gap between here and there by one step. Start. Daily.

Find your play button and let’s close the gap between here and there!


Do our choices make sense?

We make choices every day – some big, some small; some essential, some inconsequential. Regardless of what we’re deciding, we need to ask ourselves – do our choices make sense?

We can, no doubt, look back and identify choices, with the benefit of hindsight, that proved to be poor. I reckon we can also look back and see choices we’ve made that were pretty ordinary even at the time of making them (no hindsight required!). Whether it was impulse, emotion or just pure thoughtlessness, choices that don’t make sense often have consequences far beyond what we perceived.

So what does a sensible choice look like? Here are a few tips…

Is it aligned? A sensible choice is aligned with our values, supporting what we hold to be true and valuable. A choice outside of this is really asking for trouble!

Is it considered? Have we actually thought about what this choice means? Have we considered who it will impact and the ramifications for each stakeholder? Taking off our blinkers to think about others now can save us (and others) future pain.

Is it rational? Can our choice be supported by the available information? Can the dots of evidence be connected to a logical outcome?

Even asking these three questions will not prevent us from making unwise choices but I can guarantee if we don’t ask these questions, then our choices will mostly not make sense! Our first choice should be deciding what to ask.


What’s guiding you?

I’ve been driving now for almost 25 years – and boy am I tired!!  #DadJoke 🙂

Seriously though, across those years I estimate I have driven in excess of 400,000km (about 250,000 miles) and have reverse parked hundreds of times. The funny thing about reverse parking is that regardless of how many times you do it, you still need to align yourself with something to ensure you’re correctly parked.

One can choose to align the car with the vehicles parked alongside, or perhaps the gutter or road’s edge. Maybe we can use a tree or sign-post as our guide. Regardless of what we choose, our park will reflect the position of the thing to which we have aligned ourselves.  If the cars beside us are parked incorrectly then by using them as our guide, so to will we be parked off-centre.

Take this concept out of the carpark and it rings true for our life. Our lives will reflect what (or whom) we have chosen as our guide. We will assume the properties, positive and negative, of the reference point we’re using. If that reference point is strong, stable and reliable, then those qualities can shine through. The converse is also true.

So what’s guiding you? Will it help or hinder your destiny?


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