Have you ever heard the expression falling on deaf ears?
It’s that sense of deja vu when offering advice: you know you’ve crossed this ground before with this person and you are now wondering if anything is actually sinking in.
I had 3 instances recently of people reminding me of words of encouragement and advice that I offered them years ago (we’re talking over 5 years!). Words that I had
shared with each of them certainly more than once, thinking at the time that it’s making little difference, if any. Each person clearly recalled advice that was unique to their circumstances, identifying they have carried it with them! WOW!
Obviously, because there was not an immediate uptake of the suggestions does not mean they fell on deaf ears. Because I could not see a change, doesn’t mean it wasn’t going to happen.
Even if there is no change, I still have an opportunity to empower (after all, it’s not all about me & my wise words!).
I’ve learned now that just because you may have to say it more than once does not make it any less worthwhile.
If you can constructively offer advice or encourage a particular action towards a better
outcome (AND you have permission to speak into that person’s life), speak up!
The critical key here is PERMISSION. Put this in a marketing context – think how you feel when you receive unsolicited marketing emails? Not happy Jan! You mark them as junk so you don’t receive them again. It’s a different case though if you have an existing relationship with a company and have agreed that you’d like to receive information from them – you may even read it! The same rings true with relationships – if the advice is unsolicited, it’ll probably be treated as junk and the relationship will be difficult to rebuild. You need permission!
In offering the same piece of advice, it needs to be delivered with the same heart each time. Whether the advice is implemented is beyond your control, but how you offer it is totally your control. Always be encouraging. Always speak to someone’s potential.
Let Hope Rise.