As a dad, I want to instil in my boys attributes such as courage, confidence, honesty, hope… But underpinning this, I desire them to have the will for a fight. I’m not talking school-yard scrapping, but the life-defining quality of standing up for your beliefs and the wisdom of picking the right fight.
I think many of us parents and therefore our kids have become complacent, willing to roll-over to have our tummies scratched when we should be taking guard, defending our homes. As parents, we allow things to enter and to happen in our homes because the challenge to change this is difficult. We accept behaviour and attitudes because the confrontation that may result from us standing firm is ugly.
Now, we are most definitely called to head up our homes with grace and love. Inherent in “love” though is creating an environment that sets our kids up to win and this will occasionally deliver conflict. We must remain true to the bigger picture of creating empowered and confident young men and women capable of being world-changers, whilst providing a nurturing, secure home with clearly defined boundaries and expectations. Above all else, our children must know they are loved and accepted.
I’ve had several, mostly tongue-in-cheek, conversations with my older boys about their “rights”. I am all for them asserting their rights as long as they are also willing to accept the responsibilities that accompany them. This often cuts the conversation short!
If we want our kids to realise their potential, then they must be willing to fight for it. They must also know that we’ll always be in their corner. But first, though, our kids must see their parents step into the ring.
LET HOPE RISE.
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